You shouldn't Judge!!! ???

I am getting ready to step on some toes and some sacred bovine too, so prepare yourself, as I am for the backlash ... I get so tired of hearing people say, you shouldn't judge people; the Bible says so. Or you shouldn't discriminate; you're a horrible person if you do. How nuts is that? Of course you should judge and discriminate. From a biblical perspective you should judge and from a secular perspective you should discriminate. The issue is how are you judging and how are you acting upon what you have judged. Is it wrong, when shopping, to desire the red/ripe apple over the brown/slimy apple. Of course not. Is it wrong, when dating someone, to judge whether they have the characteristics that would make a good spouse and parent? Of course not. God has given human the ability to rationalize and reason to make the best choices. Moreover, God has given to those born again into Christ Jesus, the Holy Spirit to discern and to help lead our path. So yes, use what God has given you, but do it in love. But Jesus said in Matthew 7:1 'Do Not Judge'. Yes, but to clarify He said, "Do not Judge or you too will be judged." With the same measure you judge others, it will be measured to you. But he also said in the same teaching to judge yourself before you judge others, and to judge people by their fruit, and to judge what is sacred. We're told to judge spirits, to judge teachings, and to judge believers. Romans 16:17 says that we should discern those whom cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching we have learned. Then there is 1 Corinthians 2:15, James 5:19, Matthew 18:15, ..., ..., ..., and far too many verses to quote and still maintain your attention. They tell us to discern and to judge people, their behavior, their motives, intentions, their actions, ... etc. So, when it is okay to judge and when it is not okay to judge? Well, a lot has to do with what you are judging, how you are judging, the state of your heart when judging, and what actions you taking as the result of your judging. So is it okay, when you see a brother in Christ is wandering from Truth or walking in sin, to talk to him about it? Absolutely. In fact, you are instructed to do it by Jesus. Matthew 18:15, James 5:19 Is it okay to gossip about him or share things to try to hurt him, absolutely not! Judge yourself first, discern your own heart. Are you looking at your brother out of envy, bitterness, resentment, spitefulness, rejection, unforgiveness, etc. Chances are, if you are not judging out of the fruits of the spirit, you are judging in sin. And with the same measure you judge it will be measured back to you. What are your motives for judging someone? Is it to protect your heart, to help your brother or is it to inflict harm? If someone comes to you and says, Brother I am concerned for you because I have noticed, you're not coming to church, you're hanging out with a rough crowd, you're shacking up with someone, you're getting drunk, ... FILL IN THE BLANK. Please don't respond with Jesus said you should not judge, so there! Please evaluate and "JUDGE" the heart of the person talking to you. Is it out of love? Or is it out of sin? If it is out of righteous love, meditate on it and consider the direction; it may be God using someone to reach you. If it was out of Sin, hear them out and forgive them, for it will be measured back to them. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God, for Christ's sake, has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32