They can sense....
A lack of confidence.
A lack of self esteem.
Self loathing.
A lack of direction.
A lack of self worth.
Insecurity.
A lack of self control.
Any and all of these play a significant role in first impressions.
They can trigger emotional responses from us which can give people a sense of
trust or haste, interest or not, a deep look or passing glance.
If you are drop dead gorgeous, and you know it, people tend to take the time to get to know you.
But what happens if in your appearance you are just average, one of the crowd, how do you get someone to look past your average-ness and see what a great person you are?
We need to build ourselves up on what the Word of God says about us.
Jude 1:20 says we need to build ourselves up on our most holy faith.
The word faith here is 'pistis' and means a conviction of the truth. This is faith where there is no uncertainty.
For example, you can believe that if I tell you that I will call you tomorrow that I will. However, in your mind you know that there are things which might come up which might prevent me from calling, so your belief is intermingled with a certain amount of doubt. 'Pistis' faith means that you have 100% confidence that what is said is true. For example, if I tell you the sun will break the horizon tomorrow morning, you can believe without any uncertainty that what was said is true. This is what we need to build ourselves up in.
We need to believe that
God cannot lie - Tts 1:2
The Word is God - Jhn 1:1
All scripture is inspired by God and teaches us what is true - 2 Ti 3:16
God does not discriminate with his children - Act 10:34
When Jesus laid His blood down as a sacrifice and sat down at the Fathers right hand, He had perfected, for all time, the people who seek God. - Hbr 10:14
We need to read the Word and get a personal revelation of what it says about us:
If you lack confidence ...
Isaiah 40:31 “But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
Philippians 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ
Isaiah 43:2 When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
Read it, research it's meaning, meditate on it, envision it, pray for wisdom and a personal revelation. Once you get the revelation, speak it, own it, praise God for it, and share it, continuously until you believe it with 'Pistis' faith; even as the sun will rise tomorrow. So that when adversity comes your way and something tells you that you can't do it, you say, yes I can; I can do ALL things through God who strengthens me.
This is the process of renewing your mind.
Ro 12:2 Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.
The word 'be' in this context is the Greek word 'syschematizo' which means to conform one's self.
The phrase renewing of your mind is 'anakainosis hymon nous' which means the complete change for the better your perception, understanding, feelings, judging, and reasoning.
We have the ability, responsibility, and (this is hard to say) the obligation to transform ourselves into the image that God sees us as spiritually. We have the responsibility to be a magnet to the world; that our light would shine so bright that the world would take notice and wander out from the darkness. (Mat 5:16) The word 'Be' in this verse means that you have to do something yourself. It means, it isn't automatically going to happen, it means that you have a job to do. It also means that this is your obligation as a child of God. It doesn't say, if you feel like it ..., it says 'BE not conformed to this world; but BE transformed'. It is God's expectation that will will actively receive what he has given you.
When Jesus sat down with the Father, everything that we need for life, life more abundantly, and godliness has been already established and handed over to us.
2 Peter 1:3 His divine power has given us 'all things' that pertain unto (zoe) the absolute fullness of life and godliness through the knowledge of Him that has called you by name to a position of splendor and virtue.
It is your job to change the things in you that will make you stand out in a crowd. Jesus has already provided all you need to draw people to you. Exalt Jesus, then love yourself, that which is virtuous. Despise what you see in yourself that is contrary to the word of God. Cast off that old trait and see it nailed to the cross with Jesus (Ro 6:6) If you are in Christ, you are a new creation, the old has passed away and you are now a new creation all together. (2 Cr 5:17) The only reason we have character traits that are contrary to the Word of God is because we are either ignorant to the truth, or that we, deep down, don't want to invest the time to get rid of them.
This is not an easy process.
Phi 3:12 talks about that challenge of casting away the old man and taking on the new man. Paul says, Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.
He is acknowledging that he has come a long way in his walk with God, but he presses on to receive what Jesus has already given him.
Whoa ... I hate it when I am writing with the expectation of helping someone out, and the Holy Spirit says ... Sorry buddy, this one's for you. ... I may finish this one later, I need to receive this.